Etiquette Tips for Smooth Online Dating Conversations

Online life allows us great freedom to behave how we want to, yet successful online daters say if you want to connect well, it’s best to observe our common rules of good behavior, Dil Milay’s community of online daters agree that being polite and conscientious makes connecting well to find friends or future dates a rewarding and sustainable experience.  

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Still, swimming in the sea of technology calls for some adaptation for online dating. Have you found yourself trying to do the right thing in these situations? 

  1. 1. Hello? Is anybody there? On ghosting…  


The beauty of online dating life is that you don’t have to be there, in the moment to receive or to respond to a message. And you can take your time to answer.   


Leaving anyone hanging beyond a few days is impolite. It sends a loud message about you even in the silence. If you are looking to meet someone and truly interested to see where it goes, then don’t wait too long. A response within 24 hours signals your interest and keeps up momentum without seeming overly interested.  


Is it ever OK to ghost? Perhaps in the case of… 


If it’s just not working for you online with someone, don’t be afraid to go ‘ghost’ on them. In some cases it may be the best course of action!   No apologies or explanations needed. 


Chances are both sides ‘aren’t feeling it’ because it’s just not working so it’s likely the other party feels the same about ‘disappearing.’  


If indeed, things are going well, and yet a life situation calls for an interruption, then it would be the right thing to do to tell the other person that a pause or break is needed.  


Of course, it’s all a lot easier on everyone’s nerves if you haven’t met yet, this ghosting business. People are busy and it’s best to move on.   


  1. 2. To follow up or not to follow up 


Don’t send a follow-up message. People get busy. If they are interested in you based on your profile or your first message, they’ll connect as soon as they can.  


Online dating requires a bit of patience. If someone has joined Dil Milay’s community of online daters, they’ll get back to you.  No need for you to appear needy with extra nudges. They know you are there – the online dating app’s message system does the work of holding a place for you on their message page!  


Stay strong and be cool about your communications. Have confidence that you did the right thing on your first try and wait.  


  1. 3. Be normal and decent, never vulgar  


Standards sometimes slide in our social interactions these days. Social media has set the context for all kinds of quick and casual comments.  So, if you are reading this post, it is highly likely you’ve reached the stage in life where you are pursuing studies or starting a career, and you’ve learned how to behave well in the public domain a long time ago.  


Proceed as previously programmed for politeness in your online life then. 


When your best and first foot forward is via messaging and is dependent on words – make them fresh but decent.   


Dil Milay’ S. Asian online dating app has some surprises in store as the app grows to help make the experience of potential date matches magical while still pleasant and safe. Stay tuned for more tips on what to do and what to avoid in your conversation while online dating from taboo topics to sexting and more.  


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